A divorce does not concern only husband and wife, it also concern children. If you have young children, you should first agree with whom the children will live, and how they will see the other parent. You should decide on the custody, child support and visitation rights.
Even if most of the time children custody is given to the woman, it is not always the case. It depends on why the couple is divorcing. If the woman is drug addict, mentally unstable or in any other conditions which may endanger the life of children, custody can not be given to her. It is like a norm that young children live with their mother, however if the father have reasons why he does not agree to this, he can file a case to challenge the decision. However if a woman was not given a custody and think that she is able to cater for her children better, she should look for a lawyer who is knowledgeable in custody and divorce matter to fight for her.
If the children are little older, they may be given the chance to decide who they want to live with; however this is sometime an option for children who are older than 16 years.
Sometime child custody or child support may be used by the grieved party to continue legal battle against the spouse. This is why the judge has to listen to both parents and families to decide who will have the children custody. Children custody laws may vary from place to place; if you want to fight for custody for your children you must know what law you should base yourself on in the court.
If custody is given to one parent, the other parent will be required to pay for child support. If you are the one with children custody, you will need child support to cater for their needs, and if you are the one who did not get the custody, you will be required to know all about child support. No matter who has to pay for child support or who has to receive both parents should understand all regal requirements about child support.
If you are the one with children custody, remember that there are guidelines which help to calculate how much children support should be according to children age and needs. If you did not get children custody and you have to pay for children support you should also know what you have to do. And how you should contact yourself if you are no longer able to support the children lets say like when you lose your job.
If you are the one to collect child support and your ex-spouse become reluctant to pay up, you can get help from an agency who are experienced in collecting child support.
If you are the one to pay up for children support or to receive it you should know that it is not taxable, it should not be deductible from the payer or taxable income to the receiver.